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Take a moment to observe how people are treating you…
q Do they treat you like a spineless coward or a five-year old child?
q Do your friends always choose what is “best” for you?
q Does your spouse always call the shots at home?
q Do you have a say in making important decisions?
q Does your boss overload you with more work than you can handle?
q Do your officemates pass on work that they should be doing?
If people around you have been manipulating and controlling you so often that you can’t stand the abuses any longer, it’s time for you to take some action!
There’s no need to suffer endlessly in the prison cell of other people’s decisions and commands. You have your own free will to do whatever you want, whenever you please.
“No one can make you do things against your will!”
Dear Friend,
If you are getting too little of what you want and too much of what you do not like, now is the time to assert yourself and have complete control of your destiny!
Stop drifting along with no plans and idea of where you will go from here. Stop staying in the comfort zone for too long that you feel uncomfortable facing new challenges.
Now, before you proceed, picture yourself…
ü Oozing with self-confidence and being positive about your future.
ü Feeling secure in a truthful and stable relationship.
ü Gaining the trust and respect of your co-workers and friends.
ü Feeling more in command and confident of your decisions.
ü Getting the best opportunities to enjoy what you really want from life.
Does that feel good? People who have learned the ways of assertiveness are enjoying that kind of life.
“What exactly is assertiveness?”
Assertiveness is the ability to express yourself and your rights clearly without necessarily violating anyone else’s rights. That means you get to have your way, without offending anyone else.
Assertiveness will help you get what you really want. Assertiveness requires direct, open, and honest communication between people. This can be between you and an associate, a friend, or spouse.
This kind of open communication will make everyone feel better about themselves and each other. More importantly, it will help develop and maintain healthy relationships with friends, loved ones, and co-workers.
“Did you know that ONE POWERFUL WORD could save your life?”
Part of being assertive is learning how to say this single powerful word. For sure, being assertive will:
ü Improve your relationships.
ü Move your career forward.
ü Earn you the respect of everyone in your life - your spouse, friends, family, co-workers, even your boss.
ü Improve your health by reducing stress hormones like adrenaline.
Now, you might be asking:
“Is it too late for me to become assertive? How do I change for the better?”
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Assertiveness is an important communication skill that aims to establish healthy and lasting relationships. An assertive person speaks his own mind to influence others while being respectful of others.
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Don't let others dictate you to do anything you don't like. This book will teach you how to get your way while earning the respect and admiration of everyone.
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What can you learn from this amazing report?
ü How to develop healthy relationships.
ü The huge difference between assertiveness and aggressiveness.
ü The universal fear of majority of people.
ü Why certain behavioral patterns will not continue to work for you.
ü How to say “No” nicely to your boss who keeps on delegating his own project to you.
ü Why people continue to say “yes” when they want to say “no”?
ü Why being the “go-to” person can be disastrous to your health and career.
ü How to stop feeling guilty for saying “no”.
ü How to apply assertiveness in scenarios involving confrontations.
ü The significance of a boundary line.
ü How to ensure that your rights are protected.
ü How to get your spouse to treat you with consideration and respect.
ü One of the biggest roadblocks to asserting yourself.
ü How to teach your children to be assertive.
ü Assertiveness training for the non-assertive.
ü How to effectively boost your self-confidence.
ü How to fully eliminate negative self-talk.
ü How to speak the assertive language.
ü How to apply assertiveness in the area of conflicts and problem solving.
ü How to be assertive in a meeting or interview, and get the recognition you deserve.
ü How saying “yes” all the time could lead you to an early grave.
ü Vital steps you must follow to successfully resolve a conflict with another co-worker.
ü The biggest obstacle to your child’s personality development.
ü How to apply assertiveness to counter negative people.
ü How to adjust your behavior to get what you really want.
ü How to cure “the disease to please”.
ü How to earn respect for your actions and decisions.
ü How to teach people how to treat you.
ü How to develop your children in becoming good listeners, excellent conversationalists, and self-confident, assertive individuals.
ü How to assertively ask for a raise.
“Learn to assert yourself and accept responsibility for your own life!”
Want to know what is stopping you from becoming assertive? Find out for yourself in Chapter 1.
Want to learn how to be assertive (without being aggressive) at work? Do you constantly experience problems with co-workers and do not know what to do about it? Check out Chapter 2.
Want to be more assertive with your spouse and find out how to negotiate for what you need? See Chapter 3.
Want to teach your children to be more assertive too? Check out Chapter 4.
Are you unsure of how to prepare yourself to deal with a variety of people? Want to learn how to stay cool and be assertive in times of conflict and when dealing with negative people? See Chapter 5.
There’s MORE …
We included two Bonus Articles for you!
Bonus Article 1
How to Assertively Ask for a Raise
This is a step-by-step method of asking your boss for a raise. It includes finding the right timing, setting an appointment, using the right strategies, what to do when the Boss says NO, points for self-improvement, and a lot more!
Bonus Article 2
Questions and Answers
You will experience how to apply assertiveness in real work situations. It is like having a Real Personal Coach answering your questions and providing suggestions in tricky situations. There is even a special section for Women in the Workplace.
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Using Assertiveness in Arguments
People will always find themselves in the heat of arguments. Every once in a while, conflicting personalities and ideologies will clash and create commotion. Sometimes, these conversations lead to more harsh circumstances.
Learning to be assertive is a way to prevent arguments from blowing up. Furthermore, it will definitely help in winning arguments.
Assertiveness is a trait that is characterized by two things - audacity and leaning towards the positive. Assertiveness is being audacious in the sense that it requires a certain boldness to be assertive.
Audacity is accompanied by confidence that is rooted from the truth. If one has confidence in what he believes in, he will be bold enough to tell the world about it and will be brave enough to defend it against those who may persecute this ideology of his.
Assertiveness is also accompanied by the “positive.” An assertive person speaks with a positive attitude, even though he is referring to negative things. A negative person, when engaged in an argument, will most likely lose his composure and perhaps say things that are not based on good ideas. Have you heard a blabbermouth engage in an argument? Some people don’t think about the words that they are saying because all they care about is hoarding the whole argument. This tactic will never win a single argument and will likely offend the other party.
Assertiveness is not something in between aggressiveness and being passive; it is a whole other concept on its own. Being assertive means being strong and bold enough to stand your ground when engaged in an argument. It is releasing every word with finesse, as if you are reading from the book of truths. Being assertive, however, is not about insulting the person whom you are arguing with; but rather, it is a way of being respectful of his views and comments.
Before you can be assertive concerning a certain standpoint, you must first fully understand the whole issue. Let us take an example.
Let us say that you (hypothetically) can be sure that you will be engaged in an argument about birth control pills in the near future (perhaps you will be attending a seminar or a symposium about the topic). You should at least make an effort to substantiate your views. Moreover, you must also look into the opposing view, which is the more important thing to do.
Sometimes, people tend to forget the other side of things once they have seen several positive things on the side that they believe is better. Learning about the opposing view can enrich the mind. Two things might happen; you can change views or stick with your current standpoint and find more lapses on the other side. This way, a holistic approach is taken towards learning, which is imperative before being assertive.
Assertiveness is the projection of the truth. It is a confident-laden approach towards arguing. Assertiveness, when used in arguments, will definitely give the person a competitive advantage but will also make sure that the argument stays sensible and thoughtful.
Winning an argument does not strictly mean that you have to make your “opponent” concede to your beliefs; winning it entails a simple thing - that your views are heard and that you have made yourself an exemplar of your belief. This is assertiveness in action.
Turning Assertiveness into Success: Talk Your Way to Promotions
A simple, effective way to promote people focuses on two main aspects. Are they able to do the work required? Are they willing to do the work?
There are four possible combinations of staff attitude and ability. The willing and able person is the only one that the employer or the manager should consider for promotion.
At the other extreme, somebody who is neither able nor willing has no place in the organization, let alone the promotion ladder.
The people in-between, who are lacking in either motivation or ability, pose the real challenge to their managers. Motivating an unmotivated person is far more difficult than training a willing individual to perform better.
The prospect of promotion, however, may push the unwilling person into trying harder.
However, there are many instances wherein some people are appropriate for promotion but are not being recognized by the company.
If you were in this kind of situation, what would you do? Will you choose not to do anything and wait for your chance of being promoted? Or will you be assertive enough and earn the kind of promotion you truly deserve?
In the corporate world, assertiveness is required for people who wish to seek career growth. It is differentiated from aggressiveness in the sense that aggressiveness tends to create people who will defend themselves and fight for their rights in an unpleasing manner. In this way, the aggressive person tends to lose respect and reverence to authority.
On the contrary, assertiveness is more like a communication development. You try to win your side by asking for the right deal on the right approach. Being assertive would simply mean getting what you deserve and still maintain that certain level of respect to your superiors.
With assertion, you try to speak up what you think is right. You try to explain what you think you deserve and live up to what the company would still want from you as an employee.
Assertiveness can create signals to your employer that you will and can do the new job fit for your capabilities and skills. Through assertiveness, you can let your employer know that you are the type of employee who shows the standard behavior that he should always expect in a candidate for promotion.
Assertiveness can provide an individual new ways in getting the right and appropriate promotion. Being assertive would imply suggestion schemes that would make the employer feel that the employee is in partnership with him and the company.
The point here is to be recognized by the company. If no one seems to notice your positive developments towards your work and your relationship with the other people in the company, it is high time you let them know.
Besides, your achievements are something you have worked hard for. Hence, you deserve to be recognized for any positive developments you have accomplished.
In a big company, it is sometimes hard to manage and keep track every activity of each employee. There are many instances wherein the company cannot instantly detect problems or developments within the area.
Sad to say, these includes those people who should deserve to be recognized but were not yet acknowledged simply because no one knows their achievements. Therefore, the best way to earn a well-deserved promotion is to be assertive and aim for recognition.
It is best to inform the company about the developments of the company through the employee’s effort.
Let your bosses know why you deserve to be promoted, and you will have greater chances of earning the promotion that you ought to have.
Learning to be Assertive through Lawyers
What does it mean to be assertive? What can you learn about assertiveness by being with lawyers?
This article tries to relate the competency that is assertiveness with lawyers. What about lawyers? You might know people who are lawyers or studying law. You would notice the audacity of these people and how brilliantly they portray every single word that comes out of their mouths as the truth.
When someone is taking up law, or is a lawyer, one important thing that he needs to be able to survive in the courtroom is assertiveness.
What exactly is assertiveness? What differentiates it from being aggressive and from being passive? For one, a person who is assertive views and projects everything towards the positive. Assertiveness is putting something into positive terms and projecting it as if it was nothing but the truth, backed by evidence. Aggressiveness is being tactlessly bold and audacious, while assertiveness is being audacious with suave and finesse.
Lawyers need to deal with a whole lot of people. They have to deal with their clients; and depending on whose side they are on, they will make their statements as close to the truth as they can without letting others know that they are merely repacking something up, which would clearly pass as a lie if not delivered properly.
Lawyers need to communicate well with the jury and with the presiding judge. Talking about law is not something that an ordinary man can blabber about without looking stupid. Law has its boundaries, and lawyers need to play within these boundaries.
Given a certain amount of space to deal with, lawyers need to compress their statements in a way that each word they say projects the bigger statement that they are saying to the audience. The speech battles between lawyers can be so intense that the people watching are stunned as if they are watching a long rally in a world tennis championship.
Lawyers need to speak in a manner that projects the truth and without outrageously insulting other people, for they can be warned or punished by the judge. Lawyers need to speak in an assertive but careful manner as if it was a science. They employ selective speech that leads conversations towards the way that they want them to. This is why two opposing lawyers can never really have a decent conversation inside the courtroom, for they will always be engaged in a tug-of-war speech battle.
What can we learn from lawyers? Lawyers speak a language that is complemented by body language. This embodies assertiveness. Words are to be spoken in an assertive yet careful manner for them to retain their integrity and spur no doubts. Assertiveness plays around the unconscious mind. When you speak assertively to another, you will get the message across to the other individual without him taking much notice.
Lawyers are a great group to learn from about assertiveness. No decent lawyer will ever win one single case unless he is assertive. The battles in the courtroom are not just about facts and figures, but also about poise and tact. The courtroom itself is a channel for knowing the truth, and the truth are the words that are spoken by the lawyer who is more assertive.
